Women who don't sleep around before their wedding have happier marriages - but men can play the field without worry, study finds
Women who have several sexual partners before
getting married have less happy marriages - but men do no harm by playing the
field,a study has found.
According to new research by the National
Marriage Project, more than half of married women who had only ever slept with
their future husband felt highly satisfied in their marriage.
But that percentage dropped to 42 per cent once the
woman had had pre-marital sex with at least two partners. It dropped to 22 per
cent for those with ten or more partners.
But, for men, the number of partners a man they
appeared to have no bearing on how satisfied they felt within a marriage.
Researchers said the study showed that sex with
many different partners 'may be risky' if the woman is in search of a
high-quality marriage.
It concluded: 'Remember that what you do before you
say 'I do' seems to have a notable impact on your marital future. So decide
wisely.'
The findings were published in 'Before 'I Do': What
Do Premarital Experiences Have to Do with Marital Quality Among Today’s Young
Adults?', published at the University of Virginia.
The report, by Galena K Rhoades and Scott M
Stanley, said the first conclusion of the study was that 'What happens in
Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas'.
It means our past experiences, especially when it
comes to love, are linked to our future marital quality, they said.
The researchers said those who had more partners
perhaps find it difficult to commit to their spouse because they were aware of
the alternatives.
They added that more experiences of breaking up can
give people a 'more jaundiced view of love' which could affect future
relationships.
The report said: 'Many in Generation YOLO (you only
live once) believe that what happens while you’re young won’t affect your
future. But our research paints a different picture.
'This doesn’t mean that sex before marriage will doom
a marriage, but sex with many different partners may be risky if you’re looking
for a high-quality marriage.'
It continued: 'Having had more relationship
experiences prior to marriage also means more experience breaking up.
'A history of multiple breakups may make people
take a more jaundiced view of love and relationships.'
The study also found that couples who had more than
150 guests at their ceremony had the greatest marital quality down the
line.
Researchers for the National Marriage Project at
the University of Virginia, pictured, said that sex with many different
partners 'may be risky' for those seeking to have a high-quality marriage in
the future
It said: 'We think this finding has to do with
making a public declaration of commitment and having community support.
'The more support a couple has, the better they are
able to navigate the occasional choppy waters associated with marriage.'
The study tracked the relationships of a
representative national sample in America of 1,294 unmarried men and women aged
18-34.
The researchers followed the subjects for five
years. In that time, 418 were married.
Only 23 per cent of those who got married during
the survey had sex solely with the person they married.
Via - Dailymail.
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